Good afternoon to the great Class of 2029! On behalf of the administration, faculty, and staff, I’m delighted to welcome you to Duke University.
It’s been just over a week since we gathered right here in Cameron for the Family Farewell.
I hope you’ve now begun to settle in on East Campus, including getting to know the wonderful staff of the Marketplace over in the Wall Center.
I also hope that you’ve made some new friends; explored interesting topics and activities during Experiential Orientation; and are now excited to formally begin your academic careers at Duke.
We’re certainly excited for you. A lot of people—staff, faculty, and your fellow students—have been hard at work helping you get oriented.
But I’m guessing that, notwithstanding their best efforts, and your best efforts at ExO, you may still be feeling a little disoriented.
That’s completely understandable. This is still a new place, with new people, and new routines.
Nothing is quite where it used to be in your life. It’s a lot easier to get lost, and to lose things.
You have this strange new person sharing your room. Strange in the “don’t-really-know-them-yet” way, I hope, rather than in the “just-plain-strange” way.
Making things even more disorienting, you’re getting to know two campuses, east and west, and the bus lines connecting them.
And to double down on the disorientation, we’ve turned a fair amount of both campuses into construction zones, just for you.
I’m guessing you are probably hoping to be thoroughly oriented as quickly as possible, maybe craving that sense of deep familiarity with your surroundings, that confidence in knowing your way around all these people and places and routines like they were second-nature.
But my message to you today is that you should instead treasure this profound disorientation.
And you should try very hard to hold onto it.
I say this for three reasons.
First, unfamiliarity makes us unusually alert to our surroundings. When you don’t know what you’re looking at, your mind works a little harder, your eye detects things that might otherwise escape notice. In your struggles to make things out, you really see.
On the other hand, once you understand what you’re looking at, you don’t have to look at it very hard, because you recognize it. And thereafter, you see what you recognize—not necessarily all that is actually there to be seen.
This process is natural. It’s efficient. It helps us minimize the work that goes into our daily lives. But it comes at a cost. In a very real way, it dulls the senses.
When you’re disoriented—feeling like a stranger in a strange land—life can be uncomfortable and confusing at times. But that state of being confused also gives you a kind of observational super-power.
And if you can relax enough to embrace your confusion, if you can translate it into curiosity—then your mind is ready to learn. You are ready to grow.
Scientists refer to this as neuroplasticity, the ability of our brains to build novel connections—to re-wire ourselves, as it were. Neuroplasticity is at its peak in early childhood, in part because of physical brain development, but also because in childhood our lack of experience forces us to make sense of a whirl of completely novel situations. Everything is new. The rules of sensemaking are not yet developed.
As every parent has experienced, life with a child is an unending conversation about why. And unbridled, childlike human curiosity, while at times truly exhausting for everybody involved, is one of the great wonders of life.
Well, in your disoriented state as a new Duke student, you have an opportunity to reclaim that unbridled curiosity, but now with a much keener intellect and a larger, if not yet fully expansive, fund of personal experience.
This new place, these new friends, these new courses and projects, and new explorations in art and science alike: they are ready for your sensemaking, and, I hope, another series of conversations, profound conversations, about why.
In your disoriented state, you should take a break from making personal statements—you already gave us those, in your application. Now is the time for personal questions.
The second reason you should treasure disorientation is that it makes you less confident. I know that sounds bad, but let me explain.
When you’re a stranger in a strange land, you’re less likely to take things for granted. Because you can’t confidently trust that you know your surroundings, you tend to be more reflective, checking and double-checking what you’re thinking and doing. And that lack of certainty about your new surroundings generates, at least if you will let it, an openness. A willingness to listen. A posture of humility.
Intellectual humility and willingness to listen are, sadly, becoming lost arts in our society. People today feel far too confident that they know best—not only what’s best for them, but best for everybody else as well.
The world today suffers from a problematic excess of self-confidence and its close relative, judgmentalism.
This judgmental attitude could stem from myriad sources.
Maybe it’s in reaction to the insecurities fostered by such rapid social, economic, and technological changes.
Perhaps it’s related to our over-reliance on social media, which seem to have extended the kind of social ostracism once confined to middle school well into adulthood.
Or maybe it’s part of a cultural tendency to politicize most every aspect of everyday life—something the academy has probably had a hand in propagating.
For whatever reasons, we are so sure of the righteousness of our ways that we reflexively condemn rather than engage those who disagree with us, or even those we imagine to be disagreeable.
Well, this disorienting moment, if it helps you to lower your guard, is a real gift to you. It’s an opportunity to check your own knowledge enough to get to know and understand people whose life experiences, perspectives, opinions and beliefs are different from yours.
Please accept that gift, with sincere humility.
Now, I’m not suggesting that in your state of disorientation, you should lose your confidence; but I am suggesting that you redirect it: away from being so confident that you’re right, and toward being confident that, if you see past yourself, if you pay close attention to others and give them a chance to speak, and if you listen and engage respectfully with what they say, you will move closer to the truth.
You may not agree with what others have to say, but in granting that they might just be right, and that you just might be wrong, you’ll see things you missed; your own views will become better grounded, more fulsome, less prone to over-simplification and error.
In today’s world of pathological over-confidence and judgmental certainty, we’d all do well to bring it down a notch or two, or three. Please allow yourself to wander around a bit in your confusion. Try new ideas on for size. Dive into those classes and people and activities that seem most strange to you—because that’s how you will maximize your potential for learning.
The third reason to embrace disorientation is that it tends to make us a bit more careful.
Being a stranger in a strange land can at times feel isolating and turn our attention inward as we try to figure out our place in this new world. And in a world that gives us less and less room for peace and quiet, being a bit more contemplative is actually not a bad thing.
Our contemporary society valorizes engagement and activism. The time elapsed between having an idea to firing off a petition has probably never been shorter in human history. There’s a lot to be said for engagement and action. As you know, one of Duke’s signature programs is DukeEngage.
But action should not come at the expense of contemplation—especially skeptical contemplation.
There is a “care-as-caution” angle to being disoriented in a new place, and it shouldn’t be overlooked. It’s for good reason that, when children are being taught to cross the road, they’re encouraged to “stop; look; and listen.”
That remains good advice in a world that has nearly mastered the art of attracting, keeping, and selling your attention—usually by inciting strong emotional responses—and then channeling those responses into a behavior of some kind: buying this product, joining that cause. Our world seems to be implicitly suggesting you should “leap before you look.”
And there is another angle as well: slowing down enough to take care of yourself, and each other. My advice to you is: Slow down, please.
Don’t give all your time to everyone else; instead, take some time—make some time—for yourself. This is the “care-as-well-being” angle.
This new place is exciting, as it should be. And I’ve no doubt you will be engaged in many new activities and pursuits, as you should. But I also want you to savor those quiet moments of reflection in Duke Chapel or the Duke Gardens, those moments in the library lost in a new book—if not actually lost in the stacks somewhere. Get out for a run or a walk. In the morning, notice the birdsong—it’s beautiful here in North Carolina.
And perhaps most importantly, please be sure to get some sleep.
As I’ve said to every entering class, the surest way to be our best is to get some rest. So, turn off those phones. We all need enough sleep to keep our minds alert and our hearts open.
I’m confident you will make the most of your time here. We—the staff and faculty, and your fellow students—are here to help in any ways we can. So don’t hesitate to ask.
Soon, you’ll know this Duke campus like the back of your hand, and you inevitably will settle into routines and patterns that make your days more comfortable and efficient. You’ll be ready to help next year’s new class get oriented by showing them the ropes.
But I hope you’ll find ways to hold onto a little disorientation. It will keep you at your sharpest and most primed for growth and learning.
Class of 2029, I am thrilled you are here, and I can’t wait to see the many ways you will embrace the opportunities ahead.
Welcome to Duke!